I finished reading the book “Reinventing Yourself” by Puig.
It was an ok book, easy read. It’s basically about trying to control your emotions and to take your emotions out of and control them, thru meditation, prayer, imagery, and breathing. I have heard this a lot. Control your breathing, relax, “the body is the subconscious when you look after your body you are taking care of your mind and when you look after your mind you are taking care of your body.” Yes so true but my mind seems to control itself. I guess one has to be a victim of violence like I was four years ago when I was attacked, for anyone to understand what a victim mode is. It is such a raw emotional state, even when you think you are in control you’re not.
Here’s what the book says to do:
Maintain positive posture
Sleep enough.
Eat moderately
Break the sedentary habit and do physical exercise
Practice mindfulness thru meditation or prayer
Appreciate what is happening
Don’t waste time asking questions “why do I feel so bad” instead ask “what is wonderful about what I am going thru?” So we can search for a way out instead of getting trapped in emotions.
“IF WE WANT TO FEEL MORE ENERGY AND VITALITY, WE NEED TO BEAR IN MOND ALL OUR DIMENSIONS: Corporal, cognitive, affective, corporate and spiritual AS THEY ARE ALL INTERCONNECTED.” Puig
I guess as a victim that is correct everything is interconnected. I was forced to work for three years in the same building as someone who assaulted me. Had to see them everyday, hear them everyday and worse off when there we staff meetings, be in the same four walls with them. it killed me!!!
If I wanted my job I had no choice but to stay in building with them, as being the victim, and Steven walking away I was considered 50 percent of the altercation where I was assaulted. Never raising a hand but crying out, leaving to go get help, walking away and because I was in the situation, in that time and got pounded over and over with her fists, I was considered 50% the problem? EXPLAIN THE TO ME. is a rape victim half the problem? I will never understand that. It was so hard for me, my hair fell out, my stomach burned, I had constant diarrhea I couldn’t sleep, concentrating was impossible. To live in the situation was hideous and getting control of that raw primal fear almost impossible for me. I know that part of me will always be a victim. I had a violent childhood but I prevailed. I became strong. I taught children how to survive and become a survivor. I will prevail eventually over the victim mode from this assault. I will let it go and move on. Past experience probes this.
